Jesus says the inside is what matters (Matthew 23:25-28). God looks at the heart (1 Samuel 16:7), don’t judge by circumstances or judge by material things.
In the same way, when all else fails and circumstances are beyond your control, do what Jesus says and pray for those who curse and use you, love your enemies and neighbors (Matthew 5:43-45).
An older gentleman said with a smile that he is alright alive or dead when he’s gone, he’ll hug his grandson in heaven who died of a drug overdose. He’ll greet all those loved ones who went before him. Can we smile, too?